Whats for dinner?




“Hey, Mom…what’s for dinner?”

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Anyone else ever get tired of hearing this question?  Me too!

And I found a solution to the problem. I stopped cooking every night.

No, this doesn’t mean we grab fast food or order pizza (though we have gone through those phases too). It means, I decided I would not be solely responsible for our families evening meal.

My family dynamics may look a little different than yours. Currently a single Mama to 3 teenagers, I understand this may *seem* a little easier for me than most BUT…unless you are the only parent of an infant or toddler…you have options, sister!

If you have a significant other, work out a schedule. Even if their only responsible for dinner one evening a week, that gives you a break.

Solo parenting? Or want more than one night off?

ENLIST the kids! It was when there was another adult in the house and my kids were all younger that I incorporated – Kid Cook Night. On this night one or all of the kids cooked. They got to pick the meal and I supervised. It was a wonderful opportunity to spend time together and to teach, it also served as a great growth opportunity for a controlling mom to breathe and let go little.

Think your kids are too young? You might be surprised. Even very little ones can help with things like stirring.  You might have to eat P, B & J for dinner but you get a break and they feel accomplished. All of my kids started cooking early and are quite capable in the kitchen now.

My other favorite night…and one that comes a few nights a week at my house…Every Man for Himself Night. It means what it says.

I stock the house with food and we all eat. Some nights I am in the mood to make a meal and when I do its appreciated. Some nights I am not in the mood and I promise no one goes hungry.

I let go of this responsibility AND the guilt associated with not cooking and the following happened:

  • My kids enjoy cooking for me
  • they cook for each other
  • I feel confident they will all be able to cook for themselves when they leave the nest
  • THEY feel confident about their abilities
  • they create recipes


I release myself and any other Mom out there from *HAVING* to cook dinner. If thats your gig, and you dig it…COOK ON!  If not, you are no less of a mother…there are so many other ways to love your kids, I promise!

Do you cook every night? Do you want to?  I’d love to hear what happens at your house. Comment below or hop on over to my FB page and tell me!



ProfileISH-150x150Hope Fato is a Life Coach focusing on Health & Wellness. This Mom of 3 strives to help others receive the support they need in making positive changes in their health and in their life. Whether you are struggling physically, financially, or emotionally she is here to help you bring out your BEST inner self and help you achieve real results.


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2 Responses to Whats for dinner?

  1. Shoshannah says:

    Hope, This is great especially on days you may be fighting a cold or some virus….This kids can help. Or you can start the crockpot in the morning, and come home to dinner. Anyway, I am so glad you finally saw my comment!!!!! Shoshannah

    • Hope says:

      Me too, Shoshannah! I LOVE my crockpot!!!
      Yeah, the kids are really great at helping, especially if I am not feeling well!

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