Last week my sister was visiting and we were talking about some kinda BS, like sisters do and I heard my sister say for like the umpteenth time “I feel bad but BLAH BLAH BLAH” or “I feel so bad about BLAH BLAH BLAH but…”
and I asked “Do you know HOW many times you’ve said you feel bad about something?”
and then we had a REAL conversation about how often we both use that term and my sister admitted to saying it a lot when she doesn’t even really MEAN it!
We came to the conclusion that its a nasty little habit that we might like to break up with. However, when you’ve been in bed with something for a long time…sometimes its hard to get out.
I came up with an idea that didn’t seem so overwhelming and that we did NOT feel bad about…we would pick ONE day a week…Tuesday, and we would not feel bad about anything PERIOD. Even if we really fucked up, we would just forgive ourselves, apologize if necessary and MOVE on. Whew! WHAT a concept.
We agreed that if it catches on and we enjoy not feeling so bad about everything, we may explore adding extra days…like all the ones ending in Y.
Then something happened the next day, Tuesday as luck would have it. My sister yelled down asking if I had any clean towels. I did not. I had a house full of guests and NOT ONE clean towel. I yelled back up “NO.” I’m not really sure whether she got a pool towel from her vehicle (probably), used one already hanging in the bathroom belonging to someone else (I doubt it) or ran around nekkid until she dried off…but I do know, no one died.
AND since it was Tuesday I didn’t even feel bad about it.
Do you catch yourself saying this a lot? Do you feel bad about shit you didn’t do on purpose or thats not even in your control? Would you like to participate in Don’t Feel Bad Tuesdays and see if it catches on?
Hope Fato is a Lifestyle Coach focusing on Health & Wellness. This Mom of 3 strives to help others receive the support they need in making positive changes in their health and in their life. Whether you are struggling physically, financially, or emotionally she is here to help you bring out your BEST inner self and help you achieve real results.
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